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Don't be the help that is needy. Be the help that is needed.



Don't be the help that is needy. Be the help that is needed.

Have you ever had a dream that turned pitch black out of nowhere and all you could hear was a voice of wisdom? Well, that's what happened to me when I received this message. What's your interpretation?


To me, it means to offer help with no expectations, to provide support without needing to solve other people's problems, to have empathy without taking things personally...


Something that runs in my ancestry (on both sides ๐Ÿ˜“) is when someone is expressing their emotions, we have a tendency to give our opinion or offer advice without being asked, AND expect the other person to "listen" by agreeing with it or following it.


Through my healing journey, I learned that this stems from:


โœ“ A sense of pride due to a superiority complex

โœ“ A lack of empathy paired with trust

โœ“ A fear of vulnerability

โœ“ AVOIDANCE - denial of shadow aspects


Amongst many others... Excuse me while I still unpack. ๐Ÿ˜…


I must say, this journey of unfoldment brings such a stronger sense of connection. By facing this reality, we learn to provide true support by holding space for others to just BE and nurturing their emotions instead of fearing our emotional reactions and invalidating / avoiding the experience with logic.


Can you relate? How has your journey unfolded? What have you unpacked? What lessons have you learned so far? Please comment below and share with the community.๐Ÿ’–

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